The meeting of two psychic worlds, the constitution of that "third", is physiological invisible, to which two partners give life, means dealing with an autonomous organism: the bond between the two partners.
The bond between two individuals has in fact its own identity that interacts with the identity of each of the partners: it promotes the self-regulation of affections, reorganizes the patterns of attachment. That is, it represents a factor of psychic cohesion that is created between individuals.
Often the failure of a relationship leads the couple to endless and unnecessary discussions or to feeling isolated within our own relationship. Most discussions are not about superficial issues such as taking out the garbage or lifting the toilet lid, but touch on more superficial topics deep e hidden that fuel these superficial conflicts and make them more intense and damaging than they would otherwise be.
Once this is understood, partners will be willing to accept a surprising reality that is part of the relationship: most of the discussions in relationships have no solutions! The two partners spend years trying to change the other's point of view, in vain, as it is not possible in the dynamics of the couple.
It is important for the two partners, therefore, to understand the detachment, distance and divergence at the base of the conflict and learn to live with it by increasing the understanding of the other and the respect, so as to create a personal meaning in common and a purpose within the couple.
Forming a couple seems to have, unconsciously for each of the two partners, as one latent purpose of solving ancient problems, almost a sort of natural therapeutic relationship that develops in the relationship with one's partner. The relationship thus takes on an implicit role of demands and interests, and each of the two partners will take the opportunity to see how they feelimage of each other's deep needs and act as if the other partner must be the one to satisfy them, even though it is realistically impossible.
The therapeutic task is precisely to intervene on this quibble of the bond that in couples in crisis takes on a dysfunctional connotation for the couple itself, and the Love Training pathway leads the two partners to manage these dynamics by lowering demands on each other and increasing understanding of certain behaviors within the couple relationship.
The meeting of two psychic worlds, the constitution of that "third", is physiological invisible, to which two partners give life, means dealing with an autonomous organism: the bond between the two partners.
The bond between two individuals has in fact its own identity that interacts with the identity of each of the partners: it promotes the self-regulation of affections, reorganizes the patterns of attachment. That is, it represents a factor of psychic cohesion that is created between individuals.
Often the failure of a relationship leads the couple to endless and unnecessary discussions or to feeling isolated within our own relationship. Most discussions are not about superficial issues such as taking out the garbage or lifting the toilet lid, but touch on more superficial topics deep e hidden that fuel these superficial conflicts and make them more intense and damaging than they would otherwise be.
Once this is understood, partners will be willing to accept a surprising reality that is part of the relationship: most of the discussions in relationships have no solutions! The two partners spend years trying to change the other's point of view, in vain, as it is not possible in the dynamics of the couple.
It is important for the two partners, therefore, to understand the detachment, distance and divergence at the base of the conflict and learn to live with it by increasing the understanding of the other and the respect, so as to create a personal meaning in common and a purpose within the couple.
Forming a couple seems to have, unconsciously for each of the two partners, as one latent purpose of solving ancient problems, almost a sort of natural therapeutic relationship that develops in the relationship with one's partner. The relationship thus takes on an implicit role of demands and interests, and each of the two partners will take the opportunity to see how they feelimage of each other's deep needs and act as if the other partner must be the one to satisfy them, even though it is realistically impossible.
The therapeutic task is precisely to intervene on this quibble of the bond that in couples in crisis takes on a dysfunctional connotation for the couple itself, and the Love Training pathway leads the two partners to manage these dynamics by lowering demands on each other and increasing understanding of certain behaviors within the couple relationship.